The Beginning

So...let's get this straight first- I'm a wannabe Wife, not a wannabe Bride. I don't just long to wear a white gown down the aisle while 400 onlookers watch. I want to be happily married...I want to be a WIFE.

To give a little background on my relationship, me and Bob* met each other in High School and crushed on each other for years until we finally came together while we were sophomores in college. I was in Georgia, while he was in Arizona. We spent every college break together and Bob would even come see me and even miss school. We were as inseperable as you could be in a long distance relationship.

So fast forward to graduation...Bob decides to move to Los Angeles and to get a job with his Uncle Jack after I begged him to move to Atlanta to begin a new journey with me. On to his Uncle Jack--a total 'Jack' Ass. He had Bob manipulated and told him he would be making 60,000 a year. Bob ended up in a job that didn't require a degree and making only 24,000-Thank God he was living with a cousin rent and bills free.

So a year ago, I finally talk Bob into moving to Georgia to further his career. At first we decided that he would move with me temporarily until he could save up some money or find a friend to live with. We were inseperable and barely hung out with our friends to be together. It took Bob awhile to find a job so I was taking care of all the bills..every single one. He finally gets a great job...and I come home and find out he was fired. This started the change in our relationship. I went from Miss Happy to Miss Stressed. I was paying all the bills and had no help...plus how was he going to find a job after he just got fired.

Months go by and the roles of man and woman completely changed and went out the window. I was paying everything--Don't ask me to do anything. I know...I was wrong, but I had to right to be like this. I decided to get a house--which I did get based on my own income, but was really longing for the help of Bob. We move into a nice house. Both of our parents were confused about our relationship. "Why aren't you two getting married?" Now me, I've been wanting to get married to Bob for the past year and he knows it...everyone knows it. He claims he wants to marry me too- but I have seen no change or being proactive. Now don't you think Bob was leading me on by moving into MY house (not as a roommate but as a future something (fiance,husband) ) if he wasn't ready to get married?


This blog is about my life and what many women go through. We have a guy that is totally committed to us, but doesn't want to be committed by law and God "right now".
This is the story in real time of *Bob and Me (The Wannabe Wife)